Picking the battles that don’t matter

by beagooddad on October 8, 2006

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I took Pookie for a daddy and son day.  I’ll write about that soon.  During part of it, we ended up at Taco Bell.  We were sitting in our booth gobbling down our food and squirming in our booths.  Pookie is a total booth squirmer.  I pick tables with chairs whenever possible, but he picked a booth and it was his day.

Another lady comes in with her two kids.  One of them is a girl about 4 years old.  She picks out a table while waiting for her mom to get through the line and turns around backward so she will be able to see her mom when she comes.

Mom turns the corner and starts telling her to “Sit down” in a fairly unfriendly manner.  Right off the bat.  No warning, no first request, just bam “Sit down.”

But, she was alredy sitting.  When she heard her mom, she jumped down and ran to her.  Mom growled to “Sit down.”  The girl melted down.  It took about 5 minutes for her to calm down.

All because her mom picked a fight that didn’t matter.  The girl was already sitting down.

There’s a lesson I learned when I wanted to learn to golf.  Never stand up to hit the ball and tell yourself, “Don’t hit the ball in the water.”  The ball will go in the water every single time.  The same is true with kids.  If you pick on them when they are not actually doing something wrong, you will just create a battle that you didn’t need to fight.

I’m not sure what the mom had gone through ealier in the day.  The kid might have been driving her crazy.  But, at that moment the kid was happy and excited to be about to eat some Taco Bell.  And the mom ended up in a battle she didn’t really want or need to be in.

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