We too are parents trying to figure out our 6 year old autistic son and what is going on inside his head. Daily we are amazed and greatful for him and the smallest of s uccesses. We have not focused much on the why’s these last 4.5 years but mostly on what can we do to help him grow as a person. I found your blog looking for info on poopy training an autistic child. We are nearly done but for this last big piece. I agree that having let him do this at his own pace has definitely helped. However, we just figured out that he seems to feel he needs to go standing up in his pull ups and that sitting down is the problem. Any suggestions, impressive gurus of parenting? BTW we use Cheetos for successful tolieting and even that didn’t work. He had to go and still managed to hang on, for an hour and half, crying and complaining. We are trying not to have him avoid going to the potty all together, if he comes to associate being trapped in the bathroom with potty training. Thank you for at least listening.

Sincerely kandbf