Early Empty Nest Thoughts

by beagooddad on May 11, 2009

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Have you ever thought about what you are going to do when the kids grow up and move out and you get into either retirement or just working to keep decent health insurance benefits?

Yeah, me neither.

But I’ve been thinking about it a little bit recently for some reason. Probably because every time I see Giggles, I realize that she’s much more toddler and baby these days and quickly heading into little kid range. And every time I see Geetle, she’s about a foot taller and starting to bug us about things like allowance. And every time I see Pookie, he’s managed to take some repetition game that he’s made up and add some new creative twist to it that helps me realize that he’s finding new ways to express himself and take control of the world.

So, I was thinking about things that I’m doing today (outside of raising kids and spending time with my wife) and things I want to be doing 20 years from now and thinking about whether there was any intersection between those two lists. And then I realized that there was not nearly as much intersection between the two as I think there should be.

So, then I started looking at ways that I spend my free time. I actually have a little, you know.

I realized that over the last couple years or so, I’ve been spending a lot of time online. That in and of itself doesn’t bother me. In general I like the internet. But a couple years ago, I started up a few sites in the hopes of learning about how the various different ways to make money on the internet work. I’ve ended up letting that creep into my free time to the point where most of my time is spent researching various technologies and social media type of things and avoiding practicing any of them.

The internet has become a place for me to completely waste time with the justification that I’m teaching myself something that in fact I’m never actually doing.

Stupid.

So, I’m going to stop. I will be killing any site that I own for the primary purpose of making money. That’s about 8-10 domains. I’ve learned that I’m not very good at making money online and that I don’t like tailoring what I do to squeeze out a couple extra bucks each month.

To force myself to stop thinking about it, I’m going to remove advertising from all but one of my blogs. I’m only keeping it on that one to help pay hosting and domain costs and because I’m pretty close to payouts on two advertising programs and that site will eventually get those straggler pay checks.

They’ll be gone on BeAGoodDad. Mostly. When I get around to it, AdSense will be removed from the template here. I won’t bother with removing the Amazon links because those are embedded into too many old posts for me to want to waste time hunting around for them and I might do a few in the future for posts like “Good books for early readers with autism” or something similar that people actually ask me to write about every once in a while.

All of this is just the first step of a little plan that I’m brewing to change how I use the internet. I’m actually working on a little project that I’ll talk about more in the near future if it seems to go anywhere. A project that goes back to my roots of why I started blogging in the first place, is something that I’d really like to do more of now, and is definitely something that I’d like to do in my free time when the kids move out and I start heading towards at least a semi-retirement.

So, what does that mean for the BeAGoodDad blog. Not too, much. I’ll probably write more frequently or less frequently. The posts will either be shorter or longer. I’ll probably be a little more unfiltered (by myself) and might accidentally use more creative language once in a while. I’ll probably offend more people and have more people agree with what I’m saying.

Hopefully, I’ll look forward to posts more. Hopefully I’ll write more about myself, my beliefs, and how I really feel about things.

I’ll probably add more things to the “Me” category.

I probably will continue to do a shoddy job of proofreading my posts.

I’m not really sure yet. This is definitely a place where I will continue to write, though.

Anyway, what are you doing to prepare yourself for an empty nest? I might need some ideas to steal.

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