This is the final post in my series on how to handle infant twins. These are questions that we have been asked.
Q: So, you’re done now, right?
A: This question is not really about the logistics involved in handling twins, but it’s one that we were asked A LOT. I think the insinuation here is that after “surviving” twins, you would not want to have another infant. I disagree with that assumption. We had a great time while our twins were infants. It was challenging at times, but so is life. There was never a day where we said that it was too much work. The rewards were much greater than the challenges.
Please don’t ever ask a new parent this question. It insinuates that parenthood is a necessary evil and that as soon as you reach the right number of kids, you get to stop. It’s especially insulting to a parent of twins because it assumes that we would have preferred to have a singleton rather than twins. Sure, before the twins were conceived, I did think I wanted a single baby. But ever since we found out they were twins, we have been 100% happy with that.
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I disagree with you. I think that most of the people who would say to you “You’re done now, Aren’t you?” are refering to the fact that you have a boy and a girl and in todays economic times you might be considering not having more children. Others might think even parents of same sex twins could be concerned with the economic issues involved….two incomes, child care, college, shoes, bedrooms, insurance,stress,etc. Also some people might think that having two children no matter when they were born is enough in the 21st century .
What do you think of my ideas? Love MOM
My BIL has twin boys and announced on their first birthday that they were 3 months pregnant. They wouldn’t have had it any other way.
BTW, how’s the feedburner thing going?