Comments on: Formal Protests http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/ Feel free to fix my typos in your head as you are reading Fri, 19 Feb 2010 03:05:18 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 By: Be A Good Mom » Pookie- "Bring it on." BAGM- "Oh, its already been broughten." http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/comment-page-1/#comment-17083 Be A Good Mom » Pookie- "Bring it on." BAGM- "Oh, its already been broughten." Sat, 21 Jul 2007 10:10:03 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/#comment-17083 [...] the potty.  Now its time to learn what you DON’T get if you DON’T pee in the potty,  BAGD takes away whatever he was playing with or doing when the laziness struck.  I do the same, but I also choose to remind him that he [...] [...] the potty.  Now its time to learn what you DON’T get if you DON’T pee in the potty,  BAGD takes away whatever he was playing with or doing when the laziness struck.  I do the same, but I also choose to remind him that he [...]

]]> By: kailani http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/comment-page-1/#comment-16427 kailani Wed, 27 Jun 2007 19:53:40 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/#comment-16427 He is definitely a boy who knows what he wants! LOL! Consistency is the key. Keep up the discipline and he'll get it eventually. Until then, keep smiling! He is definitely a boy who knows what he wants! LOL! Consistency is the key. Keep up the discipline and he’ll get it eventually. Until then, keep smiling!

]]> By: heather http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/comment-page-1/#comment-16423 heather Wed, 27 Jun 2007 13:33:47 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/#comment-16423 We went through this issue with Little P. It lasted maybe two weeks and he suddenly stopped doing it. He will still dance around if he's having fun (and squeeze and all that stuff), but he's gotten to the point where he doesn't like accidents. One thing I did was make him clean it up afterward (after he'd been doing it for almost two weeks and I was sure they weren't accidents). I don't know if that's an option for Pookie. The only semi-bad thing was that when he had a "real" accident one day, he immediately started to clean it up (I was glad he had learned something but felt guilty because it was truly an accident so I helped him clean it up). I agree, accidents are fine, but intentionally not going to the bathroom is not. Hang in there; as you know, he'll be through it before you know it! We went through this issue with Little P. It lasted maybe two weeks and he suddenly stopped doing it. He will still dance around if he’s having fun (and squeeze and all that stuff), but he’s gotten to the point where he doesn’t like accidents. One thing I did was make him clean it up afterward (after he’d been doing it for almost two weeks and I was sure they weren’t accidents). I don’t know if that’s an option for Pookie. The only semi-bad thing was that when he had a “real” accident one day, he immediately started to clean it up (I was glad he had learned something but felt guilty because it was truly an accident so I helped him clean it up).

I agree, accidents are fine, but intentionally not going to the bathroom is not. Hang in there; as you know, he’ll be through it before you know it!

]]> By: JohnnyO http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/comment-page-1/#comment-16416 JohnnyO Tue, 26 Jun 2007 14:49:06 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/#comment-16416 I enjoyed this post - my children are the same way. When they are entranced with an activity...no time for poopy! I am learning all the time about fatherhood. Keep on posting! - JohnnyO http://fatherhoodmatters.blogspot.com I enjoyed this post – my children are the same way. When they are entranced with an activity…no time for poopy! I am learning all the time about fatherhood. Keep on posting!
- JohnnyO http://fatherhoodmatters.blogspot.com

]]> By: beagoodmom http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/comment-page-1/#comment-16415 beagoodmom Tue, 26 Jun 2007 13:12:55 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/#comment-16415 I might also add, that with Pookie, we need to be careful of asking him the same thing over and over again. Children with ASD are "chunk-learners" . We say do you have to go to the bathroom? He says " I do not have to go to the bathroom right now." Everytime. Without even thinking about the question, he searches his mind for the rote answer and spits it out. Just like we ask him every day, "did you have fun at school?" And every day he responds "I had fun on the bus." There is no other right answer, in his mind. That is how an ASD mind works. Everything is 1=1. It took us a while to learn that he was giving us canned responses. But now, we try to avoid those situations and provide him with concrete and tangible situations in which we do not lead him into an answer. Ever since we put him in charge of his potty training, he has done great and made progress. We only get involved in situations like this. I might also add, that with Pookie, we need to be careful of asking him the same thing over and over again. Children with ASD are “chunk-learners” . We say do you have to go to the bathroom? He says ” I do not have to go to the bathroom right now.” Everytime. Without even thinking about the question, he searches his mind for the rote answer and spits it out. Just like we ask him every day, “did you have fun at school?” And every day he responds “I had fun on the bus.” There is no other right answer, in his mind. That is how an ASD mind works. Everything is 1=1.
It took us a while to learn that he was giving us canned responses. But now, we try to avoid those situations and provide him with concrete and tangible situations in which we do not lead him into an answer.
Ever since we put him in charge of his potty training, he has done great and made progress. We only get involved in situations like this.

]]> By: beagooddad http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/comment-page-1/#comment-16414 beagooddad Tue, 26 Jun 2007 11:54:52 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/#comment-16414 Those are good tips. And we do all of that. It normally works perfectly. We also give him two M&Ms each time he goes and asks for them afterward. The only time I have taken things away is when he is clearly refusing to leave the situation to go to the bathroom which is not frequent but has been occurring more over the last week. Accidents are fine. Peeing on the floor because he refuses to go to the bathroom is not. Those are good tips. And we do all of that. It normally works perfectly. We also give him two M&Ms each time he goes and asks for them afterward.

The only time I have taken things away is when he is clearly refusing to leave the situation to go to the bathroom which is not frequent but has been occurring more over the last week. Accidents are fine. Peeing on the floor because he refuses to go to the bathroom is not.

]]> By: Cory http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/comment-page-1/#comment-16413 Cory Tue, 26 Jun 2007 11:39:45 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/501/formal-protests/#comment-16413 Instead of taking things away. May I suggest that you encourage him to go to the bathroom. When he is watching tv/a video, every 15-20 minutes remind him to go to the bathroom. If he is watching a video, remind him that it can be paused, or even rewound for that matter. And the remind his to go isn't a choice, he has to go to the bathroom and try, whether he has to go or not. He will soon learn that he really isn't missing out on anything to go to the bathroom. Going to the bathroom is not a punishment, and IMO should not be treated like it. Instead of taking things away. May I suggest that you encourage him to go to the bathroom. When he is watching tv/a video, every 15-20 minutes remind him to go to the bathroom. If he is watching a video, remind him that it can be paused, or even rewound for that matter.

And the remind his to go isn’t a choice, he has to go to the bathroom and try, whether he has to go or not. He will soon learn that he really isn’t missing out on anything to go to the bathroom.

Going to the bathroom is not a punishment, and IMO should not be treated like it.

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