Comments on: Autism Series – Discipline http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/ Feel free to fix my typos in your head as you are reading Fri, 19 Feb 2010 03:05:18 -0800 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: beagooddad http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-29312 beagooddad Tue, 29 Sep 2009 19:31:02 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/#comment-29312 The important thing to factor in is whether the kid being negatively reinforced (spanking/yelling/whatever) is capable of making the connection between the discipline and the act that caused the reaction. Most young kids with autism probably are going to have trouble with that which will add to their confusion and frustration which will probably spiral the behavior into worse directions. Another important thing to me is that negative reinforcement is rarely about teaching the kid something if it happens at the moment of the incident. I know that whenever I get frustrated and raise my voice or put toys in timeout or whatever that it is almost always me just flailing while my brain tries to process what is going on. If I can keep myself calm for a couple minutes my response is always more sound and always more calm and less negative and more appropriate for teaching the kids what they shouldn't have been doing. The important thing to factor in is whether the kid being negatively reinforced (spanking/yelling/whatever) is capable of making the connection between the discipline and the act that caused the reaction. Most young kids with autism probably are going to have trouble with that which will add to their confusion and frustration which will probably spiral the behavior into worse directions.

Another important thing to me is that negative reinforcement is rarely about teaching the kid something if it happens at the moment of the incident. I know that whenever I get frustrated and raise my voice or put toys in timeout or whatever that it is almost always me just flailing while my brain tries to process what is going on. If I can keep myself calm for a couple minutes my response is always more sound and always more calm and less negative and more appropriate for teaching the kids what they shouldn’t have been doing.

]]> By: TJ Bandrowsky http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-21877 TJ Bandrowsky Sat, 08 Aug 2009 00:48:14 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/#comment-21877 Does this actually work though? Everyone says don't spank and whatever, and I just don't think the positive reinforcement only works. Does this actually work though? Everyone says don’t spank and whatever, and I just don’t think the positive reinforcement only works.

]]> By: jaden http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-21192 jaden Mon, 13 Apr 2009 11:42:37 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/#comment-21192 thank you for this post! My husband currently is fighting with me about spanking our autistic child, who is 3-1/2. He was spanked, so he thinks that's what you do. He refuses to take the autism into account. He just assumes our son is being "bad." I am sending this post to him. Maybe it will knock some sense into him. thank you for this post!
My husband currently is fighting with me about spanking our autistic child, who is 3-1/2. He was spanked, so he thinks that’s what you do. He refuses to take the autism into account. He just assumes our son is being “bad.” I am sending this post to him. Maybe it will knock some sense into him.

]]> By: Angie http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-20727 Angie Mon, 25 Aug 2008 19:55:00 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/#comment-20727 As a parent of 9 yr. old son with Autism, I have to agree with most of your post. However, I do have to disagree with one aspect of it...spanking. A spanking works for our son as he does not respond to puishments such as "time-out" or "talkings". We do explain why he is getting a spanking, then spank him and it is over. The other "punishment" that works for him is being sent to his room to "calm down" if he is having a tantrum or obession. Keep in mind that what works for one child with Autism does not neccessarily work for all kids with Autism. We have just found out over the years what works and does not work for our son. Thanks again for the great post. As a parent of 9 yr. old son with Autism, I have to agree with most of your post. However, I do have to disagree with one aspect of it…spanking. A spanking works for our son as he does not respond to puishments such as “time-out” or “talkings”. We do explain why he is getting a spanking, then spank him and it is over. The other “punishment” that works for him is being sent to his room to “calm down” if he is having a tantrum or obession.

Keep in mind that what works for one child with Autism does not neccessarily work for all kids with Autism. We have just found out over the years what works and does not work for our son. Thanks again for the great post.

]]> By: Abel http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-18122 Abel Tue, 21 Aug 2007 02:44:00 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/#comment-18122 As with other things, there's no such thing as one size fits all solution. We have to do trial and error to find what works for us. As with other things, there’s no such thing as one size fits all solution. We have to do trial and error to find what works for us.

]]> By: beagooddad http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-18117 beagooddad Mon, 20 Aug 2007 18:47:01 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/#comment-18117 Bob, You are right to say that no one plan will work for everybody. These are things that have worked for us. Hopefully they will be of use for some other family. Thanks for stopping by. Bob,
You are right to say that no one plan will work for everybody. These are things that have worked for us. Hopefully they will be of use for some other family.
Thanks for stopping by.

]]> By: bob http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-18116 bob Mon, 20 Aug 2007 18:34:49 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/#comment-18116 to make comments or a diagnosis on this epidemic can't be uniform. A child with autism is different from another child with autism. You can't say that one treatment or plan will work for all kids. My child doesn't talk so outburst are a regular. Sitting them down to talk can't work for me. Sign language is at a minimum. The bedroom for an outburst is used by therapist because he is being overloaded and needs time to calm. So not every plan will meet every child's needs. The plan has to conform to the child. Thanks for your concerns and interest. to make comments or a diagnosis on this epidemic can’t be uniform. A child with autism is different from another child with autism. You can’t say that one treatment or plan will work for all kids. My child doesn’t talk so outburst are a regular. Sitting them down to talk can’t work for me. Sign language is at a minimum. The bedroom for an outburst is used by therapist because he is being overloaded and needs time to calm. So not every plan will meet every child’s needs. The plan has to conform to the child. Thanks for your concerns and interest.

]]> By: An Island Life  Hot Off The Presses - The Carnival of Family Life http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-17522 An Island Life  Hot Off The Presses - The Carnival of Family Life Mon, 30 Jul 2007 09:13:51 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/#comment-17522 [...] HEALTH & MEDICINE Mike at Be a Good Dad has an Autistic child. He’s recently been posting articles that relate to coping with this medical condition. Read his latest post entitled Autism Series - Discipline. [...] [...] HEALTH & MEDICINE Mike at Be a Good Dad has an Autistic child. He’s recently been posting articles that relate to coping with this medical condition. Read his latest post entitled Autism Series – Discipline. [...]

]]> By: kailani http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-17203 kailani Tue, 24 Jul 2007 19:37:47 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/#comment-17203 What an invaluable tool for parents of Autistic children. Good job! Thank you for submitting this post to the Carnival of Family Life. It will be included in the July 30th edition at An Island Life. What an invaluable tool for parents of Autistic children. Good job!

Thank you for submitting this post to the Carnival of Family Life. It will be included in the July 30th edition at An Island Life.

]]> By: Abel http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/comment-page-1/#comment-17175 Abel Tue, 24 Jul 2007 07:20:23 +0000 http://www.beagooddad.com/520/autism-series-discipline/#comment-17175 I must say it's a great post! Not only good for autism, I believe they work for normal kids as well...Thanks for the post. I must say it’s a great post! Not only good for autism, I believe they work for normal kids as well…Thanks for the post.

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