8 reasons why raising twins is easier than raising two kids of different ages

by beagooddad on September 11, 2006

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People often seem amazed at the challenges of raising twins.  Even parents with more kids then me mention it.  How bizarre to think that people could imagine that raising four kids is more difficult in any way shape or form than raising twins.  Ludicrous.

I will even go on record as saying that raising twins has to be easier than raising a mere two kids that are different ages.  Don’t believe me.  Well, read on.

  1. Sharing food.  Babies start off eating very small portions.  Much smaller than one little baby food jar.  Instead of throwing the leftovers away or trying to store them, parents of twins make them share a jar.  Once they are big enough to eat more than a jar, it is easy to open 3 jars, feed both kids from each jar, and get a well rounded diet at every meal.
  2. 1 bath/1 bedtime.  With kids, bath and bedtime seems to take up most of their waking moments.  With twins, they can easily share a tub which, let’s face it, helps save the planet by conserving water and saves time.  They also can share a bedtime.  Our kids sleep in the same room.  We waddle in there and start the routine of shoving both feet into one leg hole while putting on pants and getting their arms stuck above their heads while putting on their shirts.  Then, and here is the real magic.  We have one story time.  All the quality time you can imagine with half the ticks on the clock.  There is no putting somebody to bed at 7 and then somebody else at 8.  Everybody is on the same schedule.
  3. Sharing toys.  Since they are the same age, you do not have to worry about somebody’s favorite Legos being the choking hazard of Junior.  You just need one big pile of age appropriate toys.  How much easier could it get?
  4. Same childproofing.  Remember toilet locks.  They made you feel good while your first child was wandering around the bathroom in her diaper.  Then Junior came.  But, Senior needed to start peeing in the big potty.  Do you take off the toilet lock and risk drowing Junior or personally escort Senior to the bathroom every time?  Worry no more if you have twins.  If one is safe for the toilet lock, the other is, too.  After all they are only 16 minutes apart.
  5. Same videos/movies.  Tired of fighting over whether to watch Baby Einstein or Spongebob Squarepants.  I feel bad for you.  You should have had twins.  They may have their favorites, but twins at least like the same developmental stage of videos.  And never again worry about trying to find a movie at the theater that will be appropriate for all of the children.
  6. DISCOUNTS.  Some stores feel sorry for us parents of multiples.  To help ease our “burden,” they offer us DISCOUNTS.  That’s right.  When we bought our cribs at Burlington Coat Factory we paid 20% less on the second crib.  They call it the Twin Discount.  Suckers.
  7. Same phases.  Remember when the terrible twos ended.  You finally got Senior to quit freaking out every time you left Toys R Us without a teddy bear.  Be careful.  Don’t let down your guard.  Junior is about to enter that phase.  The tantrums for twins are not any worse then singletons.  It is very rare that both throw a tantrum at the same time.  But, we only have to spend a brief period of time in each phase.  Then it is done.
  8. Same playdates.  Tired of scheduling playtime for Junior on Wednesday afternoon and something for Senior on Wednesday morning.  Sick of sucking up to boring parents just so all your kids have somebody to play with.  We only need one playdate.  One single kid can occupy our kids for the morning.  Less gas money.  Less dirty neighbor couches.  Sweet it is.

I probably should not be disclosing all of this to you parents of singletons, but it is going to come out sooner or later.  For real convenience, it does not get much better than twins.

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Courtney September 11, 2006 at 4:31 pm

Reading your post made me even happier that I am pregnant with twins. Another advantage, you don’t have the older child or baby child syndrome.

Kerri September 12, 2006 at 11:37 am

I’m with you on #’s 7 and 8. #7-All I can think of when my almost-3-year-old is throwing a tantrum is, “Great, we start over with this in 19-months.” I guess there is one other thing I think mid-tantrum: with their older sister, 3yrs. was worse than 2yrs. I can’t remember why, just that it was. #8-Hard to find a playgroup that meets the needs of a 14 month old, 2 1/2 year old, and 5 year old. Oh yeah, and you’re right with the food thing, too. Okay, so you’re right on all accounts. Twins are easier!! Hmmmm….should have wished for twins, after all. :)

Stephanie September 13, 2006 at 11:16 am

Ok I give. You win. Your life with twins is way easier than my life with four! :)

#5 is the one that gives me the most headaches. This is because my 1st and 2nd are 3 1/2 years apart. I think if they were closer it would be better.

Though you make good points, the thought of twins (especially in the first few years) gives me chills of terror!

Aunt Bean October 16, 2006 at 7:49 pm

I keep telling people this and they don’t always get it. You also forgot “mountains of diapers in all sizes and shapes.” At least with the T-man potty trained I only have one size to contend with now.

Marie August 12, 2007 at 11:48 am

You do not sound like a mother of twins. Why would Burlington be suckers to offer twin discounts? Buying 2 cribs, 2 highchairs, 2 bouncie seats, 2 boppy pillows (becasue it is impossbiel to hold two infants at the same time and bottle feed), not to mention all the extra bottles, binkies, Onsies, diapers, wipes,etc. Thank God they offer a discount. My husband and I are broke! And also tired. When our infants were not on synchronized eating and sleeping schedules, it was nothing but 24 around the clock feeding & diaper changing without a break!! And I don’t want to forget when they are both sick with diareah at the same time. What a nightmare! We had to seel stuff on e-bay to pay for diapers. Then both babies were on the most expensive formula becasue they couldn’t tolerate regualr formula. How do you potty train two toddlers? So don’t act like you are a parent of twins.

beagooddad August 12, 2007 at 9:51 pm

You busted me. You are correct. I am not the mother of twins…I’m their dad.

All the rest is true.

Sorry you are having such a rough time with it.

Marie August 12, 2007 at 10:04 pm

I forgot to mention…What do you do when you are home by yourself and both babies want to be held? God only gave us two arms. Please don’t compare it to having an infant and a toddler. A toddler can wait, an infant needs your undivided attention in the beginning.

Marie August 12, 2007 at 10:26 pm

I don’t want to sound like I have it the hardest because I have twins. But please don’t make it sound like having twins is a piece of cake. It is hard work. And with a husband that is away for work most of the time, it is really hard to take care of two babies.

Like the one time I decided I would go out with a friend of mine. My babies were only 4 months old. Just packing the bottles and formula and water and diapers was tiring. Then, having to feed them and change them by myslef without my friend’s help because she said she already did that with her kids, was a nightmare. She had the same attitiude that having twins to care for was easier than her having two kids 19 months apart. You can guess that I haven’t gone out again in a long time. I never go out alone with them. Also, having to chase them outside. One runs one way and the other runs another way. Who do you run after first? I can’t bath them at the same time becasue I can’t leave one in the tub while I carry the other one the bedroom.

If I had three children, I wouldn’t dare say to their parents that is must be easier than having 3 kids at different ages.

I am sure it will get easier as they get older and once they are potty trained. But right now, it is very challenging.

Marie August 12, 2007 at 10:37 pm

Maybe you could help me with some pointers on potty training. I am stressing over it already. Do I use two potties or the toilet with a little seat and have them use the step stool to get to it? Or do you think using a potty is easier? Do you train one and then the other or do you train them at the same time? Since I will be alone most of the time, I am worried that there will be a lot of accidents.

steve June 16, 2008 at 8:59 pm

You are not a parent of twins, you are an idot for giving reasons that you do not have any clue about. you would be great at non-fiction articles

beagooddad June 16, 2008 at 9:30 pm

You are not the first person to tell me that. Are you a parent of twins? If so, maybe you should read some more articles and maybe see if there is something that could help you out. If not, then why are you bugging me?

Matthew June 16, 2008 at 10:38 pm

Wow. Steve’s a tool. And too much of an idiot to know how to spell “idiot.”

Your list is awesome and 100% accurate. Only downside to twins? Potty training two kids at the same time.

Marie June 17, 2008 at 9:57 am

I am with you, Steve.

beagooddad June 17, 2008 at 10:53 am

Wow Marie, I don’t think I’ve heard from you since sending you an email with some potty training tips back on 8/13/07.

How’s the potty training going?

Marie June 17, 2008 at 5:36 pm

Not too good. Since I am home alone most of the time, my kids want to use the toilet at the same time and they have pushed and pulled each other off the toilet. Some pretty bad fights over the toilet.I decided to have them use the toilet instead of a potty so I wouldn’t have to train them again to go from potty to toilet. And ever since I bought this new soft and cushioned potty seat with handles and a step, they both want to be on the toilet. But are jealous when the other is on the toilet. They are even jealous when one is sick and I have to give my attention. Oh, but I have some really funny stories to tell.

Another thing I feel bad about is that I didn’t get to bond with each baby 100%. I never had alone time with one or the other when they were infants. I am not speaking for everyone, but all of the women in this club in which I am a member of…Mothers of Twins & Triplets are with me on that and a lot of the other issues mentioned. Beagooddad, maybe you should speak at one of our meetings. Maybe you could help us with the issues we have and had to deal with having more than one infant at the same time. I’m sure the mothers of triplets & quads would love you. Also, I think you mentioned something about a book that you wrote. If I am correct, I would like to purchase it. Thanks for letting me vent.

beagooddad June 17, 2008 at 6:07 pm

No. There is no book. I’d actually have to proofread and edit.

One of the things that we found with both of our kids is that transitioning them to the little potties to the big toilet was virtually effortless compared to teaching them to go at all.

I would definitely try working with potties so they can both hang out on them at the same time. Once they get that under control, things will go better with the toilet because the amount of time on the toilet will be much shorter per visit since they will be heading there with a purpose.

I do understand the bonding issue. I should probably write a post about that some day when I have time to sit down and organize my thoughts.

Also, I don’t mind people venting and disagreeing with me, but for people to accuse me of not having twins (especially since there are pictures of them all over the blog) is kind of silly.

kim August 10, 2008 at 8:22 pm

Good Dad–You make some good points, but I’m not totally buying the argument you’re making. Raising twins has been the single biggest challenge of my life and my husband’s. I love them dearly, but they are RELENTLESS. They CONSTANTLY demand something…(they’re two), and you’re right…they don’t typically melt down at the same time, just one right after the other, so it’s constant howling, screeching, whining.

Their first year is a hazy blur, but have you forgotten night time feedings with twins? NO ONE SLEEPS! One’s up, then the other’s up…even if you have them on a schedule.

beagooddad August 12, 2008 at 7:22 am

Since I wrote this post, we have had another baby. I’ll stick by my opinion that there are definitely ways that twins are easier than two kids of different ages. The completely different eating/sleeping/playing schedules and managing the different toys to keep the baby area safe, etc. are all tough.

I have definitely not forgotten night time feedings with the twins but I also have not forgotten night time feedings with the new baby and then needing to do things like make breakfast and hold conversations with the older kids the following morning :)

Lindy September 3, 2008 at 9:12 am

Hey parents of twins,
I am the mother of a 3 year-old, and new 8 week old twins. I pretty much agree with beagooddad. Especially if the twins are your second birth.
One question though: I am home alone most of the time, and both twins have acid reflux. Does anyone have pointers on what to do when both want to be held all day? I’m stumped. They’re both pretty big (about 9 and 11 lbs) and squirmy, so I can’t do one in each arm. Are there any contraptions out there to help?

BOLADE September 11, 2008 at 9:26 am

i hope it works for nigerians the same way it worked for u over there. my fisrt borns are twins, 3months old now.

Randi December 20, 2008 at 2:12 am

Yeah, I somehow think being at work all day for gooddad is a whole lot easier than what his wife is doing.

MOM December 30, 2008 at 2:47 pm

In stead of pointing fingers I think someone should give Lindy some help…..doesn’t someone have advise for her. she needs ideas….What is the name of the over the counter medicine that you can use for gas? They invented it since I needed it for my babies but my grandbabies used it.

2YoungGrampa December 31, 2008 at 12:43 pm

I think what your looking for is called “Gripe Water”. A company called Woodwards produces it, although thier may be other brands. It started as relief for malaria in the 1800′s and has been used as a remedy for baby gas in europe for decades. It all natural stuff in it, like pepermint, and ginger.
But as with ALL remedies you are considering for a baby, make sure you consult your pediatrician before you use it.

Debbie Thompson March 25, 2009 at 10:01 am

Hey Kim,
Twin being easier, I’ve found to be realitve to the birth order and ages of previous children. At least when talking to other twin parents. The ones who have them first almost always have your same perspective, but if you rotate where the view is at it changes everything.
Our twins came when our son was 27 months. Though many of your reasons for it being easier, I agree, but other children make every other situation so much more complicated to meet the needs of little ones and babies. Just a thought. My mom had 9 children, singletons, and watching us said that though life was busy and crazy she never experienced the challenges we dealt with.
And for LINDY, I found acid reflux was related to food allergies, which we had treated with NAET, which resolved these problems. I just wish we discovered it sooner. Look at http://www.naet.com for information

Kel-cie April 7, 2009 at 2:34 am

Wow beagooddad, you have a lot of opinionated followers! Maybe they don’t realize that all children are different and perhaps raising their twins was more difficult for them then it was for you, I know my friends baby suffered from colic and wanted to held constantly, she thought she would go crazy and she only had 1! I agree with the point you make though, I enjoy having one bed time, bathtime routine and they stick to it pretty well at 9 months, they share toys and chocking hazards, and breast feed them at the same time and give them their solid foods at the same time out of the same bowl, I find it easier this way. As a mom of twin boys, who doesn’t work, and is with my babies almost 24/7, I think we have been pretty lucky raising two, pretty happy kids. Thanks for the article!

Soontobedadforthefirsttime April 9, 2009 at 2:44 pm

I have to say, my wife and I could not be more excited. We just found out we are having twins. I’m grinning just thinking about it. This is our first, and second, so I don’t really have any advice. I just wanted to say that it is so great reading your 8 reasons.

Sounds like the best advice is, be happy and enjoy life.

Thanks again, and good luck with the latest addition,

vanessa April 26, 2009 at 5:29 am

I think there is definatley pro’s and con’s to each situation. Twins is darn hard work, especially if you don’t have help. In some ways children at different ages are easier is that you can spend individual time with them, twins mostly get treated like a “unit” you try your hardest to treat them like individuals but doing double the work for one task is enough to send anyone batty… I have twin girls and wouldn’t change it for the world, my sister-in-law is about to have her second child, lives with her mum and has a husband to help her ever whim and is ALWAYS telling me how hard her life is going to be and compares it to my life. People without twins need to get a life or should think long and hard about having another child because if you can’t handle it it’s not fair to put your negative crap onto another parent.
Life is hard for anyone with a new baby when if it’s your first, second, third or double wammie…

Shannon May 21, 2009 at 9:48 am

I think the issue is not really about multiples but what kind of baby(ies) you have. If you have an easy baby(ies) (see below for explanation) then parenting is challenging but not miserable.

EASY BABY: He does things like sleep through the night in a crib, plays in a playpen, plays with baby toys happily, watches little baby videos quietly, coos and giggles, eats baby food from a jar, actually stays SEATED in his highchair, etc. – fusses predictably, like from a cold or teething or diaper rash or when hungry.

However, having even ONE “difficult” (aka “high need”) baby is a HORSE OF A DIFFERENT COLOR. Let me tell you… one does not know the torture a baby can inflict on a parent until one has raised of these kinds of babies. You really don’t know until you live it.

I have two kids of different ages, and that’s why this article caught my eye. The LEGO threat is all too real! However, my first baby (my son, now 5) tortured me. He was as difficult as they come! My second (my daughter, now 1) is only half as bad, so I consider her easy. But I have lots of friends with TRUE “easy” babies, and they think my daughter is very “difficult,” including a friend of mine who has twins!

So I think it’s more about what kind of baby you have. The frustration expressed in some of these comments (Marie and Kim) is very valid, as it sounds like these women have more “difficult” babies than BeAGoodDad. Lets all pray that God shows them some mercy on mothers and fathers with high need babies.

In my religion, when a mother dies, she has an automatic ticket to Paradise. If this is true, I think Kim and Marie will probably fly first class. God bless all of you. Parenting is the toughest job in the world!

Candice July 1, 2009 at 7:02 pm

Wow, lots of opinions! beagooddad, it was nice to read some of the positives pointed out in raising twins. It is all too easy to think about all the negatives and stresses with twins, especially in the first year! My 8 month old twins boys are my first so I can’t compare with having any other children, although I will admit it was/is extremely hard!!
But while I’m not sure I’d actually say it is easier, I do enjoy being reminded of the positives of twins. :)
(BTW: I have one somewhat ‘easy’ baby & one ‘DIFFICULT’ baby)

NIcole July 20, 2009 at 9:42 am

I am 20 weeks pregnant with twins ( boy and girl) and I also have a 7 yo daughter and a 9 yo son. I think you are right. I can see that in some ways having twins will be easier. I am not looknig forward to the sleepless nights but I can’t wait for the smiles and having two rolly polly babies in the house.

beagooddad July 20, 2009 at 9:53 am

Nicole, Congrats on the twins. There are few things neater than watching twin toddlers storming the house.

Rusty November 11, 2009 at 5:31 pm

Well, as I jump into this mix only 2 years late…. Sorry. I just stumbled on this post.
My first reaction was to say… What?! Did I write a blog I don’t remember doing? (I’m not joking!) Ask anyone that knows me and I’ve made this statement of twins being easier than 2 of different ages. Anyone want to debate my knowledge of the situation? I’m a single dad that has been raising my twin girls – on my own-, since they were 3 months old. They are now in 1st grade and WE are doing great.

This statement is spot-on. 2 parents or single parent, 2 kids in different phases- my hats off to you! I always said, the twins are more like 1.5 kids. Not a single child, but more of a production line approach. Built in play-mates, and all the other items listed here. ( are you sure you didn’t hear me say it somewhere and just write it for me?……)
Well that’s my 2 cents on the matter, and let me tell you, twins are awesome!

skipkent January 17, 2010 at 3:36 am

I’m a dad of 4-y-o twin boys and my experience has been great. I was a stay-at-home dad for the first year (and then off and on between consulting gigs) so please don’t assume that I’m at work all day and then coming home wondering what all the fuss is about. I’ve been there in the trenches with these boys from day one; no mother-in-laws or any of that stuff, just my wife and I, and later a nanny we hired to watch them during the day when I had a job.

It’s been ‘easy’ for all reasons listed by the original article. It’s been hard for all the reasons mentioned by subsequent posters.

Relentless? You have to be more relentless than they are. Train (force?) them to sleep on their own asap. Synchronize feedings from day one. Breast-feed as best you can but don’t worry if it’s too much, and ignore the die-hards who tell you not to supplement. Discipline them relentlessly when they fight or throw fits. If you raise your voice, they have to know from experience that you mean what you say. They can argue with each other to a point, but the moment one hits the other, they hear about it in no uncertain terms and action is taken.

“Yeah, but they just ignore me…” Hard truth: discipline must be unpleasant for them in order to be effective.

Bonding? Bonding will happen! Bonding will happen as they learn that YOU are the one making all the big decisions in their life and not them. YOU are training them to make good decisions later on. Bonding is much more than just cuddling. However, do try and spell each other (your spouse and you) so that each child gets his own ‘Mommy time’ for a while. But don’t stress too much over this, or the guilt will just drive you to make concessions to their endless demands which will only hurt all of you in the long run.

In a safe environment, let them learn and figure out things for themselves. Bumps and bruises will happen, children will cry, but they get over it a lot faster if you’re not always there crying along with them.

Potty training: Once they find it fun, they train themselves. I got my boys to pee in a large plastic cup which they found hilarious. This led them to want to do it more which increased their awareness of their own need to go. And NO FIGHTING in the bathroom. If they can ‘go’ together peaceably, fine, but if one goes in to do his business and the other follows and makes trouble, DISCIPLINE is in order! They must learn to respect that space, and the ONLY way they will learn that is if YOU teach them.

By ‘you’ I mean both members of the team; husband and wife or whatever. You have to communicate with each other as to who does what and when. Making money and paying the rent is work, btw, and part of raising a family, so don’t be too quick to discount the efforts of the breadwinner.

I’ve blabbed enough. Take Care!

skipkent January 17, 2010 at 3:41 am

One last thing. To raise multiples, you must erase the word ‘fair’ from your vocabulary. Chasing the illusion of fairness will only drive you insane. Do what you feel must be done in the moment and get on with it. They’ll survive just fine, which is a lot more than can be said for a lot of children in this world.

Mumof2beautifulgirls January 31, 2010 at 12:53 am

I agree with everything beagooddad has written! I am a single Mum of 2 beautiful identical twin girls. My girls were born 10 weeks early and spent the first 2 months of their lives in hospital. They are now 8 months old and are such a joy and blessing. I have a routine that I maintain consistently and they are on the same schedule. They sleep from around 6.30pm through to 7 the next morning, they eat at the same time, play at the same time, nap at the same time. I spend quality time with them every day reading stories, singing songs, playing games, and rocking them to sleep. The costs involved of raising twins are HUGE and yes, there are sleepless nights involved and you get so tired. But at the end of the day, I look back and realise that they are little miracles! They had to fight to survive and I thank God for every cent I have to spend, every sleepless night and every grizzle, because I know how hard it has been for them to get where they are today!

Anna February 6, 2010 at 10:36 am

skipkent…spot on. I am the mother of 10 month old twin boys and agree with everything you have said. I also took note of things to come that we have to look forward to.


Nicole February 17, 2010 at 6:38 pm

It’s funny – I agree with everything beagooddad says here but I still don’t think twins is easier than two at a time. At least not in that first year. Like he points out, there are A LOT of pluses to having two at a time (as my friend says, its like baking a lasagna – if you’re doing one, you might as well do two!) but sometimes the problems that I face are solely because I am outnumbered by two little people who cannot talk or do much else for themselves – problems I’m fairly certain I wouldn’t face if they were 18-24 months (or more) apart. I feel so bad about all the times I have to ignore one to attend the other and its a hard choice because they both have similar needs. So, their are the minuses to having two at a time as well and when all is said and done, I think it might be a wash. Not ready to say having twins is easier, for sure. Sorry!

Baby #3 is on the way so we will see how this compares. Keeping my fingers crossed that it is easier!!

judith April 5, 2010 at 8:18 am

Hi Dad of twins,

You are right about nrs. 1 -6 and very wrong about 7 and 8 when your chilren get older, I found out. My twins are 6 years of age, two boys.
7. Same phase means that they allways have their greatest fan close to them and are certain of applaus when they do something ‘ very funny’ , ‘very naughty’ etc. Mommy’s not amused ? So what ?? My brother is !!! They are very cunning at ganging up against their parents !
8. Same playdates ? Yes and no, many children (and parents !) are very much intimidated by two boys that look the same, sound the same and produce a lot of motion and noise (since they’re boys). To confusing.

Good luck to you, Judith

Sherry August 21, 2010 at 10:32 am

Hi Good Dad,
I really like what you wrote and I have to say that I agree 100%. My experience having twins (boy/girl) was amazing! Amazing pregnancy/delivery, and we would do it all over again in a heartbeat. 21 months later had another child (singleton) and I have to say that it was a little more work having one. He seemed to be more needy somehow and perhaps that was just his personality or because he was one and on his own? Not sure. The twins were amazing with him. Loved him right from the hop. They just turned 3 in June and it’s been an amazing journey.

I am not a stressor and I take it day buy day. Perhaps maybe some of the people who find your list hard to believe is because their experiences weren’t so amazing. I know that my truth is that everything will fall into place. There is no right way or wrong way and no guide book. I’ll try one thing and if it works then great! If it doesn’t work, try something else. Each child has a different personality and I’ve have to work with the differences for sure.

Since they were able to walk I bathed them together; however bathing when they were infants for me was one at a time. I would put one in an exersaucer or bouncy seat and do one and then the other because my husband was working 2 full time jobs, he was rarely home. I was pretty much a single mom for the first 1.5 years and I loved it even then. We had our moments when they were just months old, both crying so hard and I just couldn’t get the bottles warmed fast enough (I used glass bottles and warmed in traditional sauce pan of hot water) and it was tough seeing them so beside themselves.

All in all I think because I was organized, had a plan and a rigid schedule it made everything go smoothly. About baby food – I know it sounds like a lot, but really – making your own baby food is less expensive and goes a long long way. I would bake like, 3 squash, 7 or 8 sweet potatoes, Carrots, assorted meats or whatever and or steam some greens and then chop up fresh baby spinach and blend each individual veggie add the spinach and meat, then freeze heaps of meals for the kids.

I really firmly believe some people assume that being a parent of twins is super hard and extra challenging and that in thinking that way,… they’ll end up creating their own reality of it being super hard and challenging.

I do find it challenging catering to two different ages for sure. Icharumba – the toilet is my biggest beef! My kids are toilet trained but when they gotta go it can’t be locked so I am on guard all the time. I really try to engage the twins to being helpers and teachers with my little guy.
I like your positive attitude Good Dad.

Amer January 20, 2011 at 4:14 am

Hi, What to say about twins, they are lovely. Iam a dasd of 2years and 4 months boys twins. sleepless nights at the biginning, lots of stress but amazing life we had all together. the first year we, my wife and I, faces sleepless nights. we thought that this period will be the most difficult. we were wrong. at age of 2 till now they are becoming very hiper. God bless them, they can turn the house upside down in 10minutes. we always need to run after them. we cant watch and listen to a talk show program on TV. they always shout and laugh and fight ets…
if one day we seperate them for a reason, they become veeeery calm, obedient, play peacfuly. and when they rejoin each other they hug themselves first and starts playing wildly.
sometimes we dont know what to do with them to spend a 10 minutes peacefuly.
at the end, we cant say other than “they are the most wonderful thing hapened to our family”.

Staci March 10, 2011 at 7:27 pm

My husband and I are first time parents of boy twins…now 15 months old. We often get the “double trouble” and “wow, your hands must be full” remarks, but it has actually been far easier than we expected it to be and so rewarding! We can’t imagine not having twins. Our two keep each other entertained. I’ve actually found it to be more difficult when my husband takes one out and leaves me with the other. And, like Good Dad said, everyone is on the same schedule at the same time. I don’t have any family in the area and no help other than my husband and it has definitely been manageable. So far, my husband and I are having fun! Love the positive attitude as well Good Dad.

Jan April 4, 2011 at 1:24 pm

Ok, so twins are way easier than having 2 kids of separate ages IF your twins have the same exact needs. If your twins don’t go to bed at the same time, don’t take naps at the same time, don’t cry at the same time, don’t like the same foods, eat different amounts, don’t teeth at the same time, don’t have any medical problems, don’t SLEEP at the same time, don’t get up at the same time, and are basically 2 DIFFERENT babies, YOU ARE SCREWED:)

Anna June 6, 2011 at 12:15 am

I cant beleive you are comparing twins to 2 different aged babies. As a mother of 4 beleive me twins is much harder work, i have 2 girls 19 months apart and now twin boys 6 months apart. I have experienced both angles, and i cant beleive the comments are mostly from people either just having twins or the opposite 2 at close ages. Come on lets be serious here, having 2 babies is more work than 1 baby. It doesnt take a rocket scientist to work that one out, and any MOTHER should know that anyway. So what if u have a half empty jar of food, put it in the fridge and eat it the next day, and as for discount, ARE U ALL THERE, twins can send anyone broke, think about it TWO OF EVERYTHING!!!!!!!!!! and the list goes on, sleepless nights waking for one and then the other. come on do i even have to go there!!!!

Rose June 16, 2011 at 11:52 am

I can’t imagine having twins. I have one baby girl and i feel like i have aged 5 years in three weeks. I love her to death, but there will always be those parents who feel sorry for parents who have twins or more. I am one of those parents. I feel so sorry for them.

Rae April 1, 2012 at 2:20 am

Hi I’m totally with you twins are so much easier than one baby. some people will find having a a baby as an excuse to stop living thier lives, so god forbid if they have twins! I used to take my girls everywhere when they were small, and I still have no problem going anywhere with them, as long as it’s not affecting thier bedtime and is safe for them. Potty training was a dawdle – potties all over the place and one in bathroom by the toilet in case the girls needed to toilet at the same time. I just wish that my current pregnancy was twins rather than one baby as I’m sure he/she’ll be more demanding when it comes to entertainment!

danielle May 16, 2012 at 5:09 pm

Rose..sorry for people who have multiples? That is ridiculous..
I agree with gooddad..

You have aged 5 yrs in 3 weeks? with just one kid?Which shows how “capable” you are as a mom.Either the child is too naughty or as I said above develop your skills as a mom..Instead of feeling sorry for others..feel sorry for yourself.

Mom of twins July 18, 2012 at 10:54 pm

I have 9 month old twins and it defiantly isn’t easier. It is extremely tiring and stressfull. One wakes up crying now he has woke up the other one, now you have two crying at the same time. I have experienced smaller kids with different ages close together, that’s a lot more easier!!!! I have a total of 5 kids. I’m glad my other 3 are older so when they are home they can help. You can’t go anywhere with twins unless you have help. Twins don’t always sleep and wake at the same time no matter how hard you try at times. I would rather have one baby with colic for 4 months than TWO. Once you experience that I don’t think you would say its easier, especially if you have to take care of them with no help. I love them , but it is very hard. Hope it gets easier.

victoria December 4, 2012 at 12:01 am

I’m a mother of twins (toddler boys) who are now three years old. I don’t think we can generalize here…..having two easy babies might be a lot less challenging than one very high needs child, as Shannon pointed out. But, I do envy parents with one kid. I am the breadwinner, btw, not a stay at home, and my kids are in daycare during the week. But I have full responsibility for them, and basically, no family help. It’s just the three of us. And I have never cared for kids in my life, and I’m still a graduate student.

To mention something obvious but left out of these discussions: how easy or difficult it will be depends on your financial status. You need a car with twins or you’re basically a sitting duck. This is, for me, the real down side: not the extra food to prepare or baths or diapers to change, but being unable to go anywhere with them, being stuck in a neighborhood that is limited in terms of fun things for kids to do, parks and such. I live about ten minutes from Manhattan, in Queens.

For me the real bummer is transportation. Being unable to get them on the subway; even one is a challenge (yet definitely doable, especially with a twin stroller), and NYC has not designed its subway system with parents or elderly in mind. When you have twins, you notice how appallingly narrow all the aisles in grocery stores are. I’m constantly struggling to squeeze them through too-narrow spaces and bending over and fastening belts and picking up shoes…. They also tantrum quite a lot, and I feel this is related to how limited our situation is. The parks around here are, in my view, depressing. They bore quickly of the same scene here, but they love it in Manhattan: the playgrounds are better designed, there is so much more to see and do. They would also love the country. All that space! Green! Animals!

With one, you can hop on the subway and take the train to the beach. With two, you find yourself in the dismal local park under the sun… if you don’t have much money.

We live in a one-bedroom on the fifth floor that does not allow pets (except, perhaps, mice, though it doesn’t stipulate this on the lease) and the rent is very high (though not for NYC standards). No opportunity to explore, which adds to their frustration. Neighborhood is safe, though, with lots of 24/7 cafes & restaurants. Getting them up five flights of stairs is a pain in the ass. I sometimes don’t take them out because of all the work involved.

The double stroller is so hard to lift. As for shopping and laundry…. I do it while they’re in daycare. Shopping with them is a nightmare, so many tantrums and stares from strangers…..One is VERY high-needs and one is autistic. Both are perceptive, sweet, quirky, adorable but super demanding…. I, a former night owl, feel exhausted at 9 pm.

All this would be ameliorated with money, however: a house and a car and a sitter when you want a break, or a live-in au pair. A husband with strong arms would be nice, too. If you have space and help and plenty of stimulation, even triplets are doable. i’m alone here & roughing it out on a limited income, but I’m hoping to be doing better financially in the next few years.

I sometimes feel sorry for myself, though always aware of how lucky I am to have them. Nothing brings out all the contradictions like twins!

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